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…relationships are not about how two people can survive each other but about how the whole world becomes more capable of love, with all its dim anguish and glowing rapture.

~David Richo

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Spring

I had watched you taking in the spring
through dusty sun-kissed bodies wondering

Between you and me
As if they don’t see this distraction
This beautiful view
This delicate you in the way

If I follow you tonight
And leave tomorrow
If it’s all forgotten love
forgotten love

If I follow you then
I will need you closer
One more day is not enough

Anything that I could ask of you
Is more than anything that I could do

What did I say
I cannot say I remember
but every word
Seems so absurd my love

If I follow you tonight
And leave tomorrow
If it’s all forgotten love
Forgotten love

If I follow you then
I will need you closer
One more day is not enough

I don’t mind
If all this time
Is all that we had to spend
Everyone carelessly pretend

If I follow you tonight
And leave tomorrow
If it’s all forgotten love
Forgotten love

If I follow you then
I will need you closer
One more day is not enough

Two Door Cinema Club

8

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder…

So I was going to interview a bunch of men on this, but I have already talked to a bunch of men over time about these things, and I think I already know what things are common to all of them and what things vary per person.  But, if I am wrong, please, discuss.

Women like to look beautiful.  Men, of course, like to look at women, and admire. 🙂  This would seem to work out quite well, except for the fact that what girls think is most attractive on themselves is not what guys think is most attractive on girls.  The things that are not universal seem to be the things that have to do with a girl’s physical appearance, like body shape/size and hair color/length, etc.  Clothing preference can also vary, except for athletic guys tend to think athletic girls in athletic clothes are really hot, and there are some other commonalities.  Makeup seems to be a universal.

So…it has been said many times, but for those that are not aware…guys don’t really like makeup that much.  Guys tend to prefer girls that can pull it off to not wear makeup at all, and girls that maybe need a little makeup to ONLY wear a little makeup.  Obviously, girls love to do themselves up all fancy, especially when we go out.  However, this is not the most attractive to guys.  It may be argued that men go after women that wear a lot of makeup and maybe look a little trashy, but that could be because the men know there’s a good chance they can get something that they want.

As far as clothes, like I said, specifics can vary, but guys do often prefer girls in sweatpants, or their own (guys’) clothes, etc.  I have heard it said that when girls look comfortable, that is hot.  I’m not sure if that’s the reason for all guys, but whatever the reason, they seem to be in agreement on what they like.

Now, these preferences present a problem for us.  After all, when we “go out” we want to get dressed up, do our makeup all fancy, and look gorgeous.  This does not necessarily do it for guys.  Sure, some guys appreciate girls getting all fancy, but it might not be what they think is the most attractive.  And depending on how we do our makeup, some guys might actually not be that attracted to us at all.  Sure, we can wear revealing dresses, and then they will want our bodies, but that may be all they want.  Of course, this blog post is about what guys think is attractive so maybe that’s the aim anyways…

My point is that personally, when I want to go out, I don’t want to wear sweatpants and no makeup and put my hair up in a messy bun.  I want to get all fancy.  Originally this was depressing; that some of the clothes I loved the most, guys just thought were silly.  And all this time I spent on makeup they either didn’t notice or preferred I didn’t wear any.  However, I finally realized that we don’t get dressed up for guys, we get dressed up for ourselves.  Whether we realize what guys like best or not, we get dressed up because it makes US feel good.  We feel prettier, and I don’t think that’s a bad thing.

So, I am basically trying to say that you (women) should be aware that it’s quite likely that men think you look best when you think you look terrible, but if you want to get dressed up, do it!!  Even if you know your man isn’t that excited about it.  But if you want to feel pretty, go for it.  You can balance it out with some days of sweatpants and no makeup to keep him happy. 🙂  And men, let us dress up sometimes!!  Take us to places that we can get fancy for, and tell us we’re beautiful.  Unless you think we look terrible, and maybe another day try to bring that up politely…probably only if you know the girl well though.

Those are all my thoughts for now…discussion is welcome 🙂