When I was young, all the love stories I watched/read ended with “…and they lived happily ever after.” It was obvious that they would; they loved each other and were perfect for each other, despite sometimes having only met that day. Why wouldn’t they?
What I find interesting is that these days, the love stories that I like most don’t end that way. I’m not sure if it’s just me, but I do know of at least one friend who likes the stories where the man dies, because the woman shouldn’t die, and you know that if he dies then their story ends while they’re madly in love, but if they stayed together it wouldn’t be quite as good as it was in that moment. So, I’m thinking maybe other people feel the same way.
I’m assuming the difference between what I/we believed then vs now is that we know relationships are actually pretty difficult and complicated, and no one just lives “happily ever after”. People can remain together, happily, but it’s work, and not nearly as romantic and passionate as we would like it to be. So we like the love stories where they can’t be together, but at least they will forever treasure the time that they had together. I’m sure I could name a huge list of movies that end like this, but I think you could do that on your own.
The endings are very upsetting, because I want them to be together!! I mean they’re heart-wrenching. I sob. I cry frequently in movies, actually. But I am literally sobbing at the end of the movies where the couple doesn’t end up together. It’s absolutely terrible!! But at the same time, I find those stories to be beautiful. They’re my favorite. I get really mad at first, but then I develop fond feelings for them. I’m not sure if this is as a result of watching/reading all these stories with endings like this, but I have the same sort of thinking when it comes to life now, too. I treasure the experiences I have, and am a big fan of “it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
Actually, writing this, I realized that there are people who believe that, and people that don’t, and I’m guessing the former might have the same opinion on love story endings as I do, and the latter may not. Thoughts…?
I’m still not sure if this is a good philosophy or not. I guess maybe it depends on whether a person is the type that has regrets or not. I don’t really. I don’t see the point in having regrets. You can’t change things. I value the people that come into my life, whether they stay or leave, and I treasure the time that we have. So I think that the love stories that we watch/read, we like the endings where they can’t be together because it ends at the climax, and they will have nothing but fond memories. Terribly sad memories, but nothing can corrupt their memories because nothing bad can happen afterwards. I mean other than the fact that it can never be…
Actually, I think maybe that’s just it. It ends at the climax. You can’t ever get better than the climax, so how else do you end it rather than to just cut it off? This post was not planned in advance, so I’m kind-of rambling, and figuring things out as I write… When we were young, we thought that staying together and living “happily ever after” meant everything was just going to continue to be ridiculously amazing. But now, we know that it’s more complicated than that, and it won’t continue to be ridiculously amazing, so the best moment is that time that they’re completely crazy about each other, however it is portrayed by the book/movie/etc, so in order for it to be perfect, that has to be the end.
Terribly depressing, but wonderfully romantic and passionate and beautiful and…sigh.