Male, 24, In a relationship 1 week

What does romantic love mean to you?

Romantic love is love between two individuals who are committed to an exclusive, deep relationship. It includes, but does not require, sexual intimacy.

What is the difference between platonic love and romantic love?

Platonic love excludes sexual intimacy. It is experienced with friends, whereas romantic love is strictly limited to your significant other.

Why do you (or we, if you don’t) seek love?

Humans seek love because it is in our nature. We are designed to be loved and to want love. Everyone wants someone to love, whether it be romantic love or even just the love two close friends experience. We are not designed to be solitary, but rather to interact and experience life with others.

Is there one perfect person out there for you, or can you, through selfless loving, have a great relationship with someone very special?

I believe there is not just one person out there for each individual. I think there may be many people who might suit you well, but only one of them will end up with you depending on the situations you are in and the people you meet. Love is about commitment, not about matching up with every detail about each other. Selfless love is required for commitment to be real and for a relationship to be truly successful. People vary in every aspect of their lives, so finding one person who perfectly matches us is impossible. Instead, we should focus on finding someone with a similar lifestyle and core beliefs and work from there.

Should, and do, men pursue women that they are interested in? Should women pursue?

Everyone should pursue to an extent. I think the guy is expected to pursue and really should do more of the pursuing, but women shouldn’t be afraid to pursue either. If you’re interested, why not pursue?

If you are in a relationship (especially if you are married), how did you know that was the person for you? If not, have you ever been in love, and how did you know?

Prayer and just getting to know the person. As you become friends with someone and become interested in them, the more you get to know them, the more you see just how compatible you are. Whether it be life goals, religious beliefs, or just favorite hobbies, there is a lot to talk about. Eventually, you just start seeing them as a potential significant other, and after prayerful consideration, you just know. I have yet to get to the stage of marriage, so knowing at what point you are sure that who you are dating is the one for you is still something I have yet to figure out.

How do you stay in love, or make it last?

Trust. Commitment. Communication. Honesty. Love takes effort and sacrifice. If you’re not willing to be selfless, love will never last. And the only way to stay connected is to communicate. To let each other know how you feel, what is bothering you, etc.

What do you love best about the opposite sex, and what do you dislike the most about them?

I love how women are caring and understanding. If they really care about you, they let you know, and they are often there to help make you feel better when things get tough. However, they can also be a bit reluctant to share anything that may be bothering them in a friendship or relationship. I feel like holding that back can be harmful as most guys might not pick up on hints and won’t make changes accordingly unless they are directly told what is up.

What advice would you give? Love related, but anything at all to anyone at all.

Be yourself. Don’t settle. Find someone that really fits you and is willing to commit. And enjoy spending time getting to know and be with them, because life is short.


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