I’ve been told that guys are the eternal hopefuls. Women are too. Guys just hang around forever, even if a girl has said no, but is still willing to be friends. They follow her around like a sad, lost puppy…but that is not the topic of this post. We can discuss that later. This is about women.
I think everyone should watch the movie He’s Just Not That Into You. Or maybe read the book, but I haven’t read it yet, so I can’t recommend it. If the movie is based off of it, it should undoubtedly be good. Guys can learn things about women from the movie (because we are actually like that, for real), but mainly I think that women need to watch it so that we can try to remember those things it teaches us in our own experiences.
Women will endure all sorts of evil at the hands of a man, as long as at one time there was something good, or even a hint of something good. Maybe there was nothing ever there, but there were signs…we’re SURE he’s into us… So, we keep waiting, justifying everything he does. He can treat us like absolute crap, but maybe his dog died and he’s just having a hard time.
I’ve become increasingly more aware of this, because I watch that movie on a regular basis, to try to keep myself levelheaded. I’ve been listening to shows on the radio, where girls call in because this guy isn’t calling her back and she wants to find out why, or she thinks he’s cheating on her and she wants to find out who he sends flowers to, or she wants to know what he’s doing on his business trips because she’s his assistant so she’s scheduling his fancy dinners, but she also lives with him and sleeps with him and thought it was more than it was. They’re all just stupid. Why you would confront your significant other (or not so significant other), or find out they’re cheating on your or that they think you’re absolutely terrible and that’s why they’re not calling you, live on the radio is beyond me. Dumb. Especially since most of the time the one who called in is the one who is made a fool. But my second point is that these women are idiots with regards to the relationships. They all need to watch He’s Just Not That Into You. Seriously.
I heard another one tonight where people were calling in and asking for advice. And it was all women, and they were all asking advice about these guys that were really not that great. “He doesn’t talk to me for a month at a time, but then we slept together, and then he broke up with me, but now he wants me back. What should I do??” The person giving the advice was an older man, and EVERY TIME he would tell the women to just say no and not keep trying, and find someone better or take time to heal. Basically, run the other way. RUN.
Now, I realize that it’s not so easy, we get attached, we want to be with him sooooo bad so we make excuses and we justify. And I’m not so good at seeing it when I’m in the middle of it either. We all think we are “the exception”. But we need to stop!! Wouldn’t it be great to have a guy that we don’t need to make excuses for? Whose feelings for us are never in question? I have said it before I believe; I refuse to give up hope. And I don’t think that’s remotely unreasonable. I think that we SHOULD hold out for the best. Nothing wrong with wanting a guy that treats us right…I mean seriously, girls…stop settling!! I will leave you with a quote from the movie:
If a guy wants to date you, he will make it happen, okay? He will ask you out.
(and this is applicable to all situations)